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Inch Wide. Mile Deep.

Hi!! Did you miss me? I missed me, too! 

Literally and metaphorically! Because this post is about finding my way back to myself.

If you feel lost, stressed, out of touch, or overwhelmed, I want to assure you: you are not alone.

Today I'm going to explain how I'm resuscitating myself after much neglect, and then I'll wrap up by offering five resources that you can use, too. 

If I help just one of you, it will be worth it.

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As you may have heard, I'm moving away from teaching online voice lessons to pursue performing and adventure.

This is NOT because I don't love you all. But because I have simply, unequivocally, not been fully aligned, or in love, with myself.

Here's the hard truth that I have learned over and over: If something in you INTERNALLY is out of whack, no EXTERNAL circumstances will fix it.

And I mean NONE. Nada, nothing, zilch. 

(No matter how many people you help or how many YouTube subscribers you have!)

I am learning this the long, hard, but ultimately best, fashion -- living it firsthand in a meandering, high-and-low, lol-filled way. And meanwhile I can tell you guys about it. 🙂

So here's my new approach to literally everything:

Inch wide. Mile deep.

Depth. Focus. Attention. Pause. Calm down. Everything is ok. You can take a moment. You're safe.

When you work in marketing (as I have been), DEPTH is kind of a dirty word. Instead you want REACH. 

Ugh.

(By the way- it might surprise you to read that I have been working in "marketing," but that is essentially what I was doing; yes, I began as a Voice Finder, but I ultimately spent the majority of my time and funds trying to market and reach people, and that, woefully, became my job description.) 

Marketing is about numbers and clicks and analytics and ticker marks. The intention starts to mutate from "How can I say something true?" to "How can I say something to the most people and get the best results?"

I'm sure you guys have experienced this on social media. It is all about MORE. 

Life, business, and literal CONSCIOUSNESS starts to feel like skating across the top of an ever-expanding, murky pond. You have no chance to rest, and not a moment to dive beneath the surface and explore.

And the ultimate question -- WHO AM I? -- starts to feel like way too luxurious a thought. So we keep running and avoiding.

My friends, it's really nuts. And it's not sustainable.

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Time to take care of yourself, ask the hard questions, and put loving effort into yourself. Furreal.

Historically, I've never been great at self care. Until recently, it felt like a chip was broken in me for basically three decades. I put success and results (external reward) over feeling good, loved by myself, and nourished (internal peace).

I thought the whole "take care of yourself first" adage was a lie for selfish people and I was doing a world of good by putting myself last.

I owned the badge of the "hot mess" -- ya know? -- the "messy-hair, wrinkled-clothes" type. I would have rather stayed up all night working on a project or video or website, manic with thoughts and ideas, than chill out, cook nourishing food, go to the gym, or make sure I got to bed on time.

So I became cloudy, dissociated from myself, anxious, and mournful of a self that I had lost: the Fel who had time for herself, who embraced being alone, who was a dedicated creator and artist, who could be in the moment and relax.

I stretched myself for miles and miles, a couple of inches under the surface.

But now -- *orchestra swell* -- it time for the reverse.

Inch wide. Mile deep.

Take the time. I promise it's okay. Stop racing. Pause. 

Risks are okay. They're necessary, even. Heck, I have no idea what my career is going to become. Who knows! (Maybe I should re-watch my own TEDx Talk on YouTube.) But I'll figured it out. The way forward is by going within.

I am not ungrateful for the past many years. Communicating with hundreds of thousands of people online has its benefits, rewards, and thrills.

Service is so important, yes!

But -- and forgive me if I'm telling you something you already know, but for me it's been SO HARD TO TRULY ACCEPT -- self care is the most essential thing you can do for the world.

The whole put-on-your-oxygen-mask-before-you-help-others rule is no flipping joke.

The struggle is real. But if you're used to putting others' needs first (family members, a partner or spouse, your job), you must STOPPIT right now. Tune in. Give yourself the time, the effort, the care. If you don't, I will slap you!!

Helping others -- *IF you yourself are neglecting yourself* -- will only morph into a host of negative emotions, physical ailments, and long-term resentments.

It ends today! Ya feel me? You can do it. So can I. We are doing it. Oh baby, it feels good.

In summary, moving forward I will look messy only in small doses, like, say, on alternating Wednesdays. 🙂

Inch wide. Mile deep.


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RESOURCES

Thanks for reading this far into the email. You're going deep with me and I dig that.

Here is a quick list of resources that have personally helped me in recent months. I've always wanted to send stuff like this but it didn't always fit with the whole "Voice Finder" singing-teacher image.

Not anymore! It's a new dawn! 

We'll call these resources the "Fel's Self-Resuscitation List." 🙂 I hope some, or all of them serve you. <3


FEL'S SELF-RESUSCITATION LIST

(these are NOT affiliate links, I don't get commission to plug these, I just sincerely believe in them)

1. Book: The Brain Fog Fix: Reclaim Your Memory Joy and Focus in Just 3 Weeks by Mike Dow

I've always been so confused by all the conflicting ideas out there about food. What is good for my body? Seriously, someone clear it up! This book for some reason really clicked with me and helped cut through the noise.

It's not about "eating to look sexayyyy" or any of that shit. 

It's about eating to help you function and feel good, literally in your noggin-brain-bin, and by extension, lots of other stuff will fall into place. You'll glow and radiate and look like a million bucks. Self-love first, and you'll look like a hottie while you do it.

2. Un-Gadget: The Light Phone

Do you check your smartphone literally constantly to stave off anxiety and/or existential thoughts?

Yeah, let's stop doing that ASAP.

Enter: The Light Phone. It's a credit-card-sized phone that is JUST A PHONE. That's it. It rings, it dials, and it has nine buttons. 

It is but a humble PHONE! 

The cool part is you don't have to change your number and it's only $5 a month. The way it works is you can have your smartphone forward to the Light Phone during days/nights/weekends/vacations when you want to be FREE of your other phone. 

That way you're reachable for emergencies but are unshackled by the burden of having to check for texts, emails, DMs, bloops, blips, flicks, jorp-jorps, and all the other horrifying notifications that compete for our time and attention and make our brains want to explode.

3. Actual Gadget: FitBit

I literally JUST got a FitBit and I'm like WHAT TOOK ME SO LONG? Go ahead, make fun of me! I don't care! 

I'm 10 years behind the curve but I think it's true love.

4. Book: Tapping the Healer Within by Roger Callahan

Some of you may know that I'm a practitioner of EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) but I just started dipping my toe into its older brother TFT (Thought Field Therapy).

TFT is essentially self-administered acupressure. Yes it's "woo," if by "woo" you mean alternative, disruptive, badass and not sanctioned by our most beloved hegemonic institutions 🙂 

TFT is self-administered, risk-free, and all you need is the book linked above. I'm a HUGE proponent of trying out new stuff if it means it will inch you closer to living harmoniously with yourself, and so far TFT has gotten me incredible results in just a couple days.

It's definitely a bit weirder (at first) than EFT, and it requires a certain level of self-insight and intuition about what exactly to tap on, but it's been much faster and has delivered more dramatic results.

Check it out if you're brave and cool!

5. Fel's Homemade Calendar: Operation Artist Warrior (.jpeg below)

I mentioned this resource to my Singing Transformation students during a webinar and they were like "Omg, Fel, send it to us!" So, here I go.

This is a monthly chart I made for myself to log my progress toward the goal of becoming an "Artist Warrior." Basically, a strong, resilient, artistic badass who takes care of herself.

The way it works: print it out, fill in the month name at the top, then proceed through the days, checking off which activities you've done that day.

These icons are specific to me. You can ignore some or change their meaning for yourself. It won't be a perfect fit for all. But maybe some of you will like it.

The icon key is: 

SNOWFLAKE = I took a cold shower 😀
YOGA LADY = I did yoga
BALLERINA WITH A WEIGHT = I did some form of exercise
GUITAR = I practiced my guitar
MICROPHONE = I practiced my singing
WINE GLASS = I went on a solo artist date with myself
HAND PAINTING = I drew or painted
SOUND WAVE = I worked on audio engineering or production



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Whelp, that's all for now.

Thank you for listening and thank you for a being a fellow human on this earth.

Please take care of yourself. Keep going. I will, too. We got this.

Love,
Fel















 



How to Be a Great Singer Using Musical Phrasing

In today's video we'll explore the question:

What separates a good singer from a GREAT singer?

The answer, in my opinion, is musical phrasing. 

Good singers get the job done and not much more. They think about individual notes and whether or not they can hit them right, and then stop there.

Great singers think about how those notes relate to each other and how they can sculpt them into something memorable and moving.

This is musical phrasing. And it's tons of fun.

Phrasing can be altered by adjusting the following 4 components:
1. Dynamics (how loud or soft you get)
2. Rhythm (how fast or slow you sing the notes)
3. Onset (how you start the line)
4. Cut off (how you end the line)
(Admittedly, there are some more factors, but those are the broadest and most apparent.)

The easiest component for a singer to adjust and make their singing instantly better is the first one -- dynamics, or singing volume.

Watch in the video below as I explain how vocal dynamics have a huge effect on phrasing.


After that I'll demo a "good" version of "The Star Spangled Banner," followed by a "great" -- or at least better 🙂 -- version that has noticeable dynamic variation.

 

In this video I'll also teach you a simple vocal warmup that will help you rehearse dynamic range and learn to control your volume as you sing.

Please enjoy, and let me know your thoughts on phrasing in the comments below!

(And remember to share this with any singers you know hoping to take their voice to the next level!)

xo Fel

How to Hold a Difficult Emotion While Singing

If you've ever written to me and said:

Fel, when I sing a song I become very overcome with feeling and want to cry, and then I lose my technique.

or,

Fel, how do I show real emotion when I sing?

-- then the following process will serve you incredibly well.

But first, a quick story . . .



This past Friday I attended a business conference, and in one of our small group exercises, I started crying.

Yup.

My attempt at a "business suit"

If that sounds weird, it's because it kind of is. But this was no ordinary business conference. The goal of our group exercise was to relive a past memory and to hold the feeling of that memory in our bodies.

(Among other things, one greater goal of the conference was to expand our consciousness, to learn to hold feelings, and to use these skills in the service of creating heart-centered businesses.)

What does it mean to "hold a feeling?"

To me it means: not buckling under its weight, or letting your mind reactively race in anxious thoughts. Instead, you learn to embody the feeling, hold it in your heart, head, stomach, whatever, without getting freaked.

In turn, the feeling (1) doesn't flee from you, (2) doesn't overwhelm you, (3) becomes a welcomed part of who you are.

As I did this exercise, I realized the process was almost exactly aligned with the dramatic process of getting into character onstage, whether for a play or for a song performance.

Getting into character basically means: are you able to hold the character's emotion -- without fleeing or worrying that "this is too much"?

That's what today's post is about!

So let me ask you: what makes a good song performance?

We're all familiar with the answer: good pitch, pleasant sounding tone, and consistent technique.

Now let me ask you: what makes a great song performance?

A great performance conveys real emotion, vulnerability, and connection. In short, the singer touches the audience in a memorable, true, and vital way.

The first (good performance) is simple. Practice your technique, my dudes, and you'll get there (I'm here to help with that if you need daily guidance).

The second (great performance) requires some special sauce. This sauce is made with the ingredients of empathy, self-awareness, and a performer's ability to hold a feeling without running from it. (Yay Italian cooking metaphors!)

This process of holding a feeling will serve you tremendously not just in life, but in your song performance.

HOW TO HOLD A DIFFICULT EMOTION WHILE SINGING

Step 1: During your song preparation, determine the feeling behind the song (e.g. hope, joy, jealousy, despair, etc.). (These don't have to be "bad" feelings per se, because even joy can feel overwhelming sometimes.)

Step 2: Get centered in your breath. Visualize a connection from your feet to your butt, to your belly, to your heart, to your head, and then back again. At this moment, you are grounding yourself and connecting with your body.

Step 3: Recall a time from your own life when you felt the feeling from Step 1. Close your eyes and step forward. Allow the feeling to overtake you. Feel it in your body. Notice where it lives. Does it have a color? A shape? A direction? Let it come to your body for a few moments.

Step 4. This is the really cool part! Physically take a step back, outside of the emotion. Literally step back, "out of the feeling." In doing so, you return to your grounded state of Step 2. This is called "Second Position."

High-quality graphic by Felicia Ricci

While in "Second Position" consider the feeling. Where did you feel it? What is the positive intention behind the feeling? How might it be trying to help you? (E.g. Is the jealousy trying to keep you safe? Is the joy trying to lead you to fulfillment?)

Take some time to observe and understand the feeling. Is it necessarily "bad?" Or is it just....a feeling?

Step 5. When you're ready, physically return to the original feeling, stepping forward, but keeping your expanded Second Position consciousness or mindset. This means you literally take a physical step back into the original position but you try to retain that feeling of groundedness and expansion.

At this point, it's sort of like you blend the two states. You're able to both understand and "hold" the difficult feeling, simultaneously. As you return to your feeling state, recall the feeling of being grounded in Second Position, even as the feeling comes.

Recall the wisdom you had of accepting the feeling for what it was. You knew that even fear, even jealousy, even _______ (fill in the blank) is an important part of who you are and can exist in you without hurting you.

Step 6. Repeat this exercise as many times as necessary until you and the difficult or overwhelming feeling are best buds! Remember, you can always step out of the feeling to Second Position if it gets to be too much.

This ability to not only feel but to self-regulate and hold feeling in a grounded (and non-reactive) way is one of the greatest performance skills I know!

And while I certainly have good and bad days in achieving this, I'm committed to practicing the process, to serve both my life and my performances onstage.

What about you? Will you use this technique to hold complex, difficult, or overwhelming feelings -- and to ultimately understand and integrate them into your performances (and life)?

Please leave me a comment!

xo Fel

P.S. If you're digging the idea of holding deep emotion onstage, but still want to develop consistent vocal technique to support that goal, I'd love for you to check out my Lazy Singer's Warmups.

These vocal warmups are fun, quick, and effective at growing your voice in just 10 - 33 minutes per day. No complex thinking required. Just a little bit of commitment each day.

Check out my favorite vocals warmups here!

Why You Need A "Singer Survival Technique"

“We don't rise to the level of our expectations, we fall to the level of our training.”  --Archilochos

Last month I began performing onstage with my musical improv group Thank You, Places: An Improvised Musical at the Philly Improv Theater. Every other Friday we make up a one-hour musical, on the spot!

If you're thinking: That sounds hard, Fel is so BRAVE! -- well, I have news for you:

It freaking ter-ri-fies me.

Seriously. I think I was more nervous on February 17, 2017, our opening night, than I was when I first went on for Elphaba in Wicked (and that's not a joke).

The face of a woman doing everything she can not to freak out

Why was performing made-up songs so psychologically stressful for me? You already know the answer, I'm sure:

No preparation means you have nothing to hold onto, no rules to follow, and no way to anticipate the challenging parts of a song. 

In contrast, if you want me to do "regular" musical stuff, I will jump at the chance. Give me a score or a script to study, and I'm golden. I can rehearse and plan, I can get the feelings of the songs in my body, mind, and voice. I can deliver what I've practiced with consistency. This is my bread and butter.

But making up lines and songs on the spot -- all while maintaining good breath support, vocal control, solid singing technique -- this was another challenge ENTIRELY.

But, as the cliché goes: the Show Must Go On. So here's what I did.

I developed a "Singer Survival Technique."

Before I explain what this is, I want to point out that even if you're not performing in an improvised musical troupe like me, having a Singer Survival Technique is crucial.

As a singer, you're not always going to be able to rehearse everything. Being able to be spontaneous while singing, deal with the unknown, and find your way back after an unexpected mistake or change in a song is an essential skill.

(Examples: You're asked to throw together a quick act when an unexpected opportunity comes up. Or you decide to make up a riff or alternate melody, mid-performance. Or you're invited onstage without notice. Or you and your band change something about a song a couple minutes before you perform it. These things happen all the time.)

So it's time to arm yourself with something that will help you, no matter what.

Here it is:

THE SINGER SURVIVAL TECHNIQUE

Pick one, almighty, broad-strokes cue. Then, while performing, do that cue.

The end.

Now. This technique may sound overly simple and, of course, there's more to it. Namely, it only works in the clutch after lots of thought and preparation.

So what are the steps to prepare? To explain, I'm going to tell you:

(1) What exactly a broad-strokes cue is,

(2) How to pick this almighty cue,

(3) What you need to do *everyday* to ensure this Singer Survival Technique works when you need it most,

(4) What you need to do *right before a performance* to ensure this Singer Survival Technique works.

1. What is a "broad-strokes cue"?

A broad-strokes cue is basically a big, general movement that involves a big, general image. In times of stress, humans lose fine motor skills (tiny movements) but we retain broad/gross motor patterns (big movements).

In the army, soldiers are taught to rack the slides of their pistols with a broad movement of their palm, rather than with individual fingertips. Likewise, martial arts like Krav Maga reject overly detailed movements in favor of simple strikes that are easy to execute.

Relying on broad movements increases the likelihood of a successful performance in moments of confusion, chaos, danger, and stress.

Singing is the same, especially improvised singing. With no rehearsal, or even any preconceived idea of where the song is going, all you have to rely on is your skill in the big stuff -- the basics. For most singers, this is breath support, alignment, and relaxation.

If you make those things as automatic as possible, or use a broad-strokes cue to help you remember, you can use the rest of your brain to think about the other, less broad stuff (face shape, vowel modification, interpretation).

2. How do I pick this cue?

This is where your singing Practice Log becomes crucial.

I encourage all singers always to track their singing practice and determine which singing cues work best for them. (You can download my free Practice Log here.)

As you practice, keep track of the cues that are most effective for YOU.

Which images or prompts are the most "magical" for achieving a desired result? If you practice regularly, you will become quite familiar with these.

To develop your own personalized Singer Survival Technique, take your favorite cue or set of cues and combine them into one almighty broad-strokes cue.

Here's my own, personal example:

When I sing, I am absolutely lost if I am not 1) breathing from my diaphragm/lower body, (2) fully aligned without a "chicken neck."

So what is my Singer Survival Technique?

"Butt clench with arrow down."

That's it.

For me, it works. (Without getting too much into the nitty gritty, the butt clench helps me to activate my breath, reduce tension in my neck and face, and stay vertically aligned, while the down arrow keep my energy grounded and my larynx relaxed.)

While I was performing onstage with Thank You, Places, I was thinking about lyrics, melody, character -- all that juicy stuff -- but always, ALWAYS, in the back of my mind -- and sometimes quite actively -- I thought:

"Butt clench with arrow down."

And whattaya know? My voice didn't bail on me. It was there. And I was able to sing freely with good supported technique, even when I didn't know what the heck was going to happen.

3. What do I need to do *before a performance* to ensure my Singer Survival Technique works?

In order for your Singer Survival Technique to work, you have to get the juices flowing before your performance with a basic warmup set.

Take particular care to stretch, breathe, and relax your ribcage, back, face, jaw, and tongue. Busting tension is one of the most crucial parts of maintaining good technique. This is a whole other topic in and of itself, but just know that a warmup is essential.

Equally essential: as you warmup, visually reinforce your Broad Strokes Cue, picturing the image or thought as you work through your warmup set.

4. What do I need to do *everyday* to ensure my Singer Survival Technique works?

The answer is simple and un-sexy: practice, practice practice.

Practice your skills daily, with extra emphasis on the basics, and log your findings in your Practice Log. Your basics are the meat and potatoes of your singing technique. They will ultimately compromise your Broad Strokes Cue.

In the words of Bruce Lee: "I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times."

Breath. Relaxation. Busting tension. These are the essentials, and more important that any "fine motor adjustment" could ever be.

Brick by brick, you are laying a solid singing foundation for yourself.

(If you're confused about what to practice, and you want a quick 'n' dirty solution that will help you bust tension, open up your voice, and build solid technique without wasting time, you might want to check out my Lazy Singer's Warmups. These will help with both numbers 3 and 4 -- warming up before a performance, and warming up daily.)

(If you want a more in-depth, holistic look at singing technique and building a solid foundation from the ground up, check out my comprehensive course Singing Transformation: 360 Degrees of Vocal Training.)

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Whoa, that was a long post! But I wanted to share this because it has been illuminating to find myself totally terrified and in a new singing situation. It really puts things in perspective -- and hopefully lets you see that even people who have been singing for 25+ years (like me) need to take proactive steps to maintain good technique.

What do you think? Are you excited to develop a Singing Survival Technique? What are some ideas for your Broad Strokes Cue? Share below in the comments! I'll be sure to check them all out.

xo Fel

Are you frustrated with your voice? Read this.

You know what bugs me most? When singers don't realize their full potential -- not because they're incapable, but because they don't have the right tools.

In our online singing community there are over 90,000 singers who tweet me, email me, leave awesome comments -- you name it! And I can sense the love-hate relationships they have with their voices.

They have spent years (decades, even!) spinning their wheels and not making lasting progress.

Maybe you can relate. You're a singer with boatloads of potential, trying to piece together the "clues" of how singing should feel. But you feel way more frustrated than triumphant.

You see progress, then setbacks. You learn tips and tricks (possibly from me, on YouTube 🙂 ), but nothing truly STICKS.

You don't know how to put it together in the right order.

Your voice comes and goes, never seeming predictable.

You start to worry: "Am I just not cut out for this?"

"Do I have to be blessed with that elusive 'it' factor that makes singing easy and effortless?"

The confusion ends now.

You CAN absolutely sing, consistently and well. There is a voice waiting to be unlocked. If you haven't yet, you haven't been given the right tools.

Singing ISN'T pure natural ability. Singing CAN be developed, and built, in the same way you can build up your muscles in order to lift heavy objects.

Singing is a PROCESS.

A slow burn.

Singing is 50-year marriage, not a weekend love affair.

Singing is about your MIND, BODY, and EMOTIONS, not just physical mechanics.

If you're reading this email, we've already met somewhere on the internet (hi!). You've hopefully enjoyed my singing tips videos, where I give you short bite-sized bits of information. Or maybe you've enrolled in a few of my specialized singing courses, on belting or warming up.

But I want to go deeper with you.

I want to pull everything together in a manner that makes sense.

I want to show you how my "singing tips" are the tip of the iceberg. 🙂

I want to show you how learning singing fundamentals, empowering yourself to know your instrument, and linking your mind, body, and emotions will make your voice soar.

My mission is to help you build a lifelong singer strategy that puts you in the driver's seat, and lets you get to know your voice better than anybody else.

If you can relate to any of this, you are my favorite kind of singer!

You are driven, you are committed, and you are not letting setbacks throw you off course.

Let me help you keep going –

I'd like to extend to you an exclusive invitation to my free singing webinar.

Next Sunday, January 15 @ 3PM EST I'm releasing Part 1 of my epic training series, called:

UNLOCK YOUR TRUE SINGER POTENTIAL: Yes, My Dude, You Can Become a Good Singer

**As the video plays, I'll be there live chatting with you in the comments section of the webinar!**

Be sure to RSVP for the webinar, as space is limited >

This is a 3-part video series that totals over 90 minutes of free singing training! Part 1 comes next Sunday, then parts 2 and 3 throughout the week. 

It's unlike anything you've seen from me before (or probably elsewhere), as we will be learning and singing along together, using powerful visual cueing and creativity to access your body and voice. We will get into the nitty gritty of how to build a lifelong singer strategy that WORKS. And I will show you how to build CONFIDENCE & CONSISTENCY every time you go to sing or perform. 

RSVP for my epic singing webinar, where you can live chat with me! >

This webinar is a free introduction to my elite training course Singing Transformation: 360 Degrees of Vocal Training, which re-opens for enrollment at the end of this month (after 8 months of being closed, eek!). The entire experience -- from webinar to registration -- is heart-poundingly exciting for me because SO many singers get SUCH incredible results.

I hope to see you there and hope you'll chat with me!

Lots of love,

Fel

P.S. I want to thank all of you who participated in my singer survey and Skype lottery! Update- I'm still going through all 2,359 response (lol) but will announce the Skype winners ASAP!

In the meantime, be sure to RSVP to the webinar so you can secure a spot -- there's tons of interest this year and I like to cap attendance so that I'm not overwhelmed with the live chatting. 🙂

In my webinar, I will teach you:

  • Why it's fruitless to worry about your "maximum potential" - and why you (and you alone) determine your own vocal potential
  • Why practicing on your own doesn't need to be a marathon (and is actually really simple)
  • The REAL reason voice lessons and teachers haven't worked for you in the past
  • The magical power of visual cueing and linking your mind, body, and emotions
  • Why the best singers are their own voice teachers -- and their own cheerleaders
  • How to feel free in performance while still maintaining great technique
  • How to set mental, emotional, and physical conditions so your voice doesn’t “come and go”

Claim your spot at my free webinar >

Let's do this! xo

How to Sing "Silent Night" - Pop Singing vs. Musical Theater

Time for a ridiculous, holiday-themed video that explores the differences between pop singing and musical theater singing!

More specifically, I will sing "Silent Night" two different ways, all while wearing an ugly Christmas sweater.

The gist of the two approaches is:

  1. Musical theater singing features pure, open, sustained vowels and is more faithful to rhythm.
  2. Pop singing lets you have more freedom with pronunciation. Play around with diphthongs, rhythms, breathiness, and vocal fry, as these simple adjustments can instantly change the genre of the singing. If you struggle with how to sing pop, hopefully these simple approaches can help you start to reshape your sound.

This isn't a detailed musical theater or pop singing tutorial per se, but it's a fun 'n' silly video that contrasts some key approaches that can help make your singing sound more pop-py.

(Because I personally am a beginner pop singer, I would consider this pop singing for beginners. 🙂 )

xo Fel

P.S. Don't forget to get on the waitlist for my 8-week online singing course Singing Transformation, re-opening January 2017! The experience begins with a free 90+ minute singing webinar that is pretty awesome. Hope to see you there!

P.P.S. And if you're struggling with last-minute holiday gift ideas, you can give your singer friends one of my other online singing courses!! Here's how.

My Skype Lottery is Back!

It's the most wonderful time of the year. Nope, I don't mean the holidays....

I mean: it's time for my Singing Survey and Skype Lottery! Woooooo!

Can you lend 3 minutes to answer my quick survey?

Every year I revise my elite 8-week training program Singing Transformation directly from your singer feedback. Singing Transformation is my "teaching opus" -- my mondo fun and cool singing course designed to teach CONFIDENCE and CONSISTENCY in a truly epic and comprehensive way.

The best part: I add to it every year, and use your comments to help shape (1) the way I teach, (2) what I teach. Plus, I'll use your feedback for all of my future courses / videos / teaching topics.

The more I can get to know you, the better I'll be able to help you. 🙂

Extra cool part? If you complete the survey you'll be in the running to get a free Skype session / convo with me -- I'll be picking 3 singers to chat with from all those who enter.*

Fill Out the Singer Survey and Enter My Skype Lottery >

*You can also complete the survey & simply opt-out of the Skype lottery, either way is cool 🙂

Thank you SO MUCH for being such an awesome, helpful, valuable member of my online community. Without you none of this would be possible!

Love and surveys,

Fel

P.S. Even (especially!) if you're already enrolled in Singing Transformation, I'd love to hear your feedback. The survey takes about 3 minutes and asks you about your top singing questions, as well as the kinds of topics you're interested in.

Take the survey and help a Fel out >

Your answers will help me make Singing Transformation even better this year -- and hopefully we'll get a chance to Skype chat (fingers crossed).

xo

Are You Scared Of Being Accomplished?

I sat down to write a singing-related newsletter but all the topics kept falling flat (no offense, singing, I still love you, but that's the truth).

At this moment, on the verge of 2017, my mind and heart are seated on the metaphysical equivalent of a Six Flags rollercoaster.

There's a fine line for me to walk with respect to divulging personal thoughts. I don't want to veer too far off topic -- you most likely found me online and enjoyed my singing lessons and info, and Dr. Phil moments might not be your thing --

But what the hell. Maybe we can relate to each other and stuff. 🙂

Here goes.

Accomplishment scares the sh*t out of me.

On the Grand Staircase of Life (I don't even know what that means? But let's embrace this architectural metaphor for a second) I do this thing where I painstakingly climb to a new, higher step, look around, smile, feel the accomplishment, take a breath....

...then feel the blistering altitude, the ensuing vertigo, clutch my pearls*, start screaming "It's too high! It's just...too...high!" and summon all my willpower / recite every motivational mantra / close my eyes and sway softly in order not to tumble straight back down.

(*I don't actually wear pearls.)

Bottom line: fear makes every accomplishment feel risky.

I'm pointing this out because this is way more subtle than I, and maybe you, ever thought. I always thought fear was OBVIOUS, like a villain in a movie. Sneering and greasy and wearing dark clothing and speaking in vague accents.

But in real life, fear works undercover. Fear stages subconscious sabotage. Fear dresses up as "common sense."

Fear isn't a monster. Fear is familiar. Fear tells us:

"If I [ACCOMPLISH X] then there are downsides. Better stay safe."

"And if I DON'T [ACCOMPLISH X] then there are actually many benefits! Life can stay warm, fuzzy, comforting, and status quo."

Here are some examples taken from "Fel's Fear Brain," a mysterious and baffling entity:

  • "If I become more confident, then there are actually downsides. I could turn off my friends, my customers, my family, and be a lonely, confident weirdo."
  • "If I DON'T become more confident, at least I know I'm taken care of, and life will stay normal and steady and familiar."
  • "If I perform more, then there are actually downsides. I'll seem like a stuck-up, attention-seeking nut. Worse, I could make a fool of myself, and invite ridicule, and make people think I *think* I'm so amazing, when in reality, I'm not!"
  • "If I DON'T perform more, at least I can stick to what's working, and not suffer any embarrassment or revelations that I actually suck."
  • "If I grow my business, then there are actually downsides. I'll lose touch with the people I love (you, my students), I won't have any time, I will stop being genuine, I will become a greedy freak, I will grow a goatee and laugh maniacally."
  • "If I DON'T grow my business, I won't have to worry about more responsibility, or any competition, or any other conflicts. I'll stay small but familiar, and unthreatening."

....I think you get the idea?

But even though I'm shaken and wary, I feel hopeful. Why? Because I'm NOTICING this dynamic.

Noticing fear's subtle UPSIDE/DOWNSIDE tactic is the first step to moving beyond it.

So I'm asking you to ask yourself, on the verge of 2017, to do the same.

Time to engage in a long, hard, intimate, maybe even sexy stare at your fears.

Ask yourself:

  • What am I holding myself back from doing?
  • Is it...singing more?
  • Making time for myself?
  • Taking care of my body and exercising?
  • Performing in front of others?
  • Auditioning for that local musical?
  • Speaking in front of coworkers?
  • Giving a lecture at a nearby school?
  • Asking for a raise?
  • Changing careers because WHAT THE HELL?
  • Starting my own online business?
  • Writing that love letter?

Fear will act accordingly. It will show you all the DOWNSIDES of acting up. It will also show you all the BENEFITS of staying exactly as you are.

But we know better now, don't we?

When you're on the "Grand Staircase Of Life" (lol this metaphor), and you summon the courage to take one step higher, before you leap back down, take a pause and remember:

  • You are not alone. We are all secretly worried, wondering, seeking, embarrassed, and winging it. Anyone who tells you otherwise is lying.
  • Acting with faith and courage is (1) easy to write in a social media quote, (2) really f*cking hard to do in real life. ("Leap and the net will appear" -- YEAH OKAY HOW ABOUT NO?) 🙂 But it will get easier.
  • Have patience through the fear. If you can feel fear or discomfort and not run from it, often you can literally change the feeling. A daily meditation practice (or daily singing practice! for many, singing = meditation) can help you hone in on these fearful feelings, and ultimately release them.
  • You are contributing to a higher good. When we elevate our state, and move toward joy, we elevate the mood of the planet. (Example: "Auditioning for that local musical means I will move closer to my dream of performing, which means I will live with more joy, which means I will encourage others to do the same.)

Here's the moment where we all take a long, cleansing sigh.

This felt good to write. I hope it also felt good to read.

I want you to know that I'm here for you, and that each and every one of us has a vital mission to move toward joy and the highest version of ourselves. That doesn't necessarily mean the big bucks, or the best grades, or the best house, or the best resume --

It means having the strength to perceive fear, and take each new step anyway. It means having the courage and faith that we've all got each others' backs.

I'm here for you. Thanks for being there for me.

Love,

Fel

P.S. Leave me a comment about anything at all. I'll read every single one.

How to Sing Any Song with Modified Lyrics

This video is about my favorite singing "hack" - modified lyrics! This easy singing tip will give you the most bang for your buck, even (especially) if you're a beginner.

If you've watched my "How to Sing Chandelier by Sia" video, or any others in my pop song series, you know that I like to take regular English words and translate lyrics into singer-friendly vowels. Why? It can do WONDERS for your singing.

When you rewrite singing lyrics with more "open" vowels, which are easier and more resonant to sing, they become a million times easier for singers to tackle.

What's more, it makes your singing tone less closed or pinched, and more open, rich, and resonant.

I get tons of requests to translate specific songs, which I will keep doing in future, but I also wanted to give you my guidelines so that you can do it for any song that you like to sing!

Be sure to download my .PDF summary so you can check out the best singer vowel translations and start singing in with a more open, resonant, and beautiful tone.

Please leave me a comment to let me know if this video helped you translate and sing your favorite songs!

xo Fel

Vocal Warmup to Open Your Voice (and Give Yourself Love!)

Singer buds! Many of you have talked to me about the incredible amounts of tension you experience while singing, and I want to help!

I've been cooking up some cool warmups that (1) Relax you, (2) Open your voice, (3) Get you LOVING on yourself and feeling confident. 🙂

(I've been trying to come up with a title for these, I'm thinking "Let's Get Singer-High"?)

Anyway, I wanted to give you a short 'n' sweet preview of one warmup that will get you to:

(1) Open your voice and relax your throat and larynx

(2) Lift your soft palate while relaxing your jaw

(3) Look at yourself in the mirror and think HEY I LOVE MYSELF!

And here it is!

The sung line is "I LIKE LOOKING AT YOU" and the musical pattern is 1-1-3-2-1-1.

Simple, right?

Here's the nitty gritty:

 

(1) Look in the mirror while you do this. It will help to make sure....

(2) You keep the back of your mouth open and relaxed the whole time, kind of like you're yawning. So you sing "I LIKE LOOKING AT YOU" more like "I LAHK LUHKING AHT YUH."

(2) When you create these words, keep your jaw dropped and try not to move it. Stay open.

(3) Your tongue basically has two "touch points": the back of your bottom teeth, and the back of your top teeth.

(4) Start around a middle C and go for about an octave and change. Stop if it starts to hurt.

(5) As always, breathe using your diaphragm!

(6) Really heed the words you're saying. YOU LIKE LOOKING AT YOURSELF because DAYMN you're sexy.

 

Hope this warmup is helpful! Leave me a comment to let me know (1) if some more warmups from me to relax you and get you feeling the love for yourself and your voice sounds fun, (2) whether you enjoyed this warmup!

Love,

Fel

 

P.S. Fellow songwriters! Tonight at 8PM my voice teacher Cari Cole is doing a Facebook live event for songwriters!

It's her 2nd free training before her Signature Songwriting Circle begins this week -- enrollment period is almost over and the course is almost sold out.

 

The free training topic is:

 

Songwriting Shop Talk: Writing Songs That Will Get You Discovered

 

...and it's going to be rad.

 

Cari Cole is an Artist Development Expert & New Music Business Mentor, and she has so much wisdom to offer to aspiring songwriters ready to get serious. She's going to share how there are no real "tricks" to songwriting, and describe how you can hone your artistic process to truly reach your full potential.

 

CLICK HERE TO WATCH LIVE TONIGHT AT 8PM! >

 

See you soon, amigos! xoxoxo